In February I was delighted to be asked by the Telegraph to be featured in their Saturday Magazine which fell on a very special day – Valentine’s Day! The original article can be found here or keep reading below.
“I’ve been a matchmaker for nearly five years. It all began because I had a fascination with people and what brings them together. There wasn’t a regional dating service in London that appealed specifically to the generation in their 20s, 30s and 40s, so I started my dating agency, Mutual Attraction.
Back then I had no idea where it would lead, but five years later I’ve brought together lots of couples – and it has even resulted in marriages and babies. In the early days I had inquiries from people of all ages, including some in their 70s. It’s brilliant to think they’re looking for love but it wasn’t the demographic we wanted to attract.
One of the best parts of my job is listening to feedback after a date. We usually speak to couples separately the day after they’ve met. Often feedback is similar on both sides but sometimes you have to relay bad news if one person wasn’t keen and the other was. It’s also very nerve-racking because when you put two people together, you feel responsible.
You can match them to the best of your ability – I do this by weighing up who is most likely to suit whom according to their interests and needs – but what happens on the date is down to them. Saying that, people put too much emphasis on the first date – I don’t think it’s healthy. My advice would be not to big it up too much.
Ultimately, to be a matchmaker you need to love working with people and you need to be confident when it comes to awkward discussions. You must also be prepared to give feedback, even when a date wasn’t great, and to question what people are looking for. Plus you need to be a friendly, strong person who is able to make people feel good about themselves – even if they haven’t met the love of their life. ”
Interview by Adam Starkey